Lots of talking but not a word spoken

Earlier this year, Tim and I set ourselves a challenge to find an activity we both liked doing together; we decided to start exploring dance. Most dance studios in Amsterdam offer a ‘proefles’ (free trial lesson) so you can try before you buy. We both agreed; we had nothing to lose!

Our first dance lesson together was Salsa, a dance with influences from Latin America, particularly Cuba and Puerto Rico. A lively dance with basic steps, although not simple by any means, but Salsa for us lacked the ‘get-up-close-and-personal’ we hoped for learning to dance together. It felt coordinated and repetitive. So we swiftly moved on to our next ‘free trial’ dance lesson, which was the Tango for beginners.

From that very first lesson, we realized Argentine Tango was made for us.  Not only was it, because we thrive on the intense passion throughout the dance created out of the close contact, gazing into each other’s eyes and the hypnotic music: neo-tango and electro-tango but for me personally, it conjured up great childhood memories.

I remember my parents’ house always filled with the sound of classical Neapolitan music, which heavily influenced tango music. My father would play the accordion and piano at family gatherings in Napoli, where the guests danced merrily, but little did I know as a child, some were dancing the Tango! Anyhow, today it’s turned into our Wednesday date night ritual: a Tango session at TangoTalks followed by a romantic dinner for two. And all of that just from a dance, I hear you say?

I have to admit that not only was it a difficult dance to learn in the beginning, but I am a strong and independent woman who generally, doesn’t follow. And guess what? The Tango has clear roles: the man leads, and the female follows while embracing (abrazo), so you can imagine I wasn’t a natural follower.

But having your man take charge, regardless how politically incorrect it might feel to some, and to trust him implicitly is addictive. Tim admits that he equally enjoys the whole process of learning how to lead and communicate only with his body; guiding me to the next step, as much as I love learning how to interpret his body language.

It’s also interesting to dance with other partners and follow someone you are not used to. You are practically conversing with a total stranger just by using your body rather than with words. And the fact that the Tango is an improvised dance: once you learn all the steps you never know what comes next. It’s your partner who decides and still not a word is spoken.

There are Tango dance events and festivals called Milongas organized around the world. Luckily, we don’t have to venture far as Amsterdam hosts regular get-togethers for Tango lovers. We haven’t been to one yet, but I can’t wait to go to my first one. We are putting in the extra practice before daring to go public. But one thing is for sure: the whole time we spend dancing the tango, we have the biggest smiles stamped across our face!

If you would like to learn more about the history of Tango, check out this link.

For Tim and I, Tango is an out-of-the-box way to get closer to each other romantically. I’d love to hear what you do, out-of-the-box to get closer to your partner. Please enrich us, by sharing your thoughts in the Reply Box below.

Watch this short film of our inspirational teachers Rene and Gabrielle dancing the Tango. Wouldn’t you want to dance like them?

If you would like to learn more about the history of Tango, check out this link.

For Tim and I, Tango is an out-of-the-box way to get closer to each other romantically. I’d love to hear what you do, out-of-the-box to get closer to your partner. Please enrich us, by sharing your thoughts in the Reply Box below.

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